Here’s my blog post on finding your way back to your true self.
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Who is Betsy Leighton?
I’m a writer, blogger, and healer dedicated to helping individuals reconnect with their innate peace and wholeness by healing nervous system dysregulation. My personal experience with chronic illness called Mast Cell Activation Syndrome (MCAS) shapes my work, and my content offers tools to empower those with chronic illness to improve their well-being and take charge of their health.
I created the Sacred Self-Healing Method and am a trained and certified Safe and Sound Protocol provider, an author, blogger, and A Course in Miracles Teacher. I hold a Master of Divinity in Spiritual Counseling and am a trained spiritual mentor, with certificates in sound healing, aromatherapy, nutrition, and Sacred Deathcare. I offer a self-study certificate program in the Sacred Self-Healing Method, provide spiritual counseling and coaching, courses, and supported subscriptions for the Safe and Sound Protocol.
What is MCAS?
Mast Cell Activation Syndrome (MCAS) is a chronic condition that affects all organ systems. It can cause severe, disabling symptoms every day, including potentially fatal anaphylaxis. MCAS often occurs with other chronic conditions like Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (EDS) and Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome (POTS). Managing MCAS is challenging because many healthcare providers are unaware of it, and diagnostic tests can be unreliable. Treatments include antihistamines and mast cell stabilizers, as well as avoiding triggers. Check out this post on managing MCAS.
Getting Lost
My mentor, Jeff Linzer, recently posted a piece on getting lost, which I paraphrased here:
“From time to time, I lose my way. It might begin with a creeping doubt that awakens in the middle of the night, or after an upsetting conversation where shame or caregiving takes over. It always feels painful—like I’ve forgotten who I am, lost in a drama, forced to go through my struggles once more, all over again. I feel humbled, humiliated, and afraid—like a child who has wandered off and must be found.
Yet these moments are actually the greatest opportunities. When we lose our way and must find our way back to ourselves, we finally confront what’s been present all along. We draw on our experience and our inner wisdom to heal and recover. In doing so, we connect more deeply with our presence, with our essential self.
We work through the judgments, the attachments to identity, the ego-driven patterns we’ve carried without realizing it. We navigate a range of emotions—despair, rage, confusion, fear. We remember to feel our breath, to anchor ourselves in our bodies. We return to our hearts and feel the love there, allowing it to expand, to fill the space around us with light and warmth.
You and I lose our way and find our way back again, over and over. That is, in fact, the nature of the path we walk. Our goal is to find our way back again.”
Finding Your Way Back
Situations like what Jeff describes above are departures from your true self. Read on to learn about my forgiveness method and how it helps you to find your way back to your true self when you experience getting lost.
Intention
Sacred Self-Healing relies on intention and frequency. Intention directs frequency to bring about healing. The universal formula for healing is:
Intention + Frequency = Healing.
In this expression, “frequency” refers to the specific healing modality being applied. Setting an intention is particularly beneficial when utilizing self-healing methods such as frequency and forgiveness. This post covers more information on the power of intention.
Beneficial Frequency
Beneficial frequency refers to natural vibrations that synchronize biological and Earth systems, to support overall harmony. For instance, visible red and blue light from the sun are beneficial frequencies because they regulate circadian rhythms. Likewise, Earth’s Schumann resonance is a naturally occurring frequency that aligns internal and external rhythms for health. This post discusses beneficial frequency in more depth.
Forgiveness
Forgiveness, like love, is seen as a high-frequency energetic state connected to compassion and gratitude. In contrast, emotions such as resentment and anger are thought to have lower frequencies, constricting rather than elevating well-being. Forgiveness helps elevate energy, promote emotional healing, and support physiological balance. Science hasn’t measured the frequency of forgiveness, but studies show that forgiveness can improve heart and brain patterns and help the body work more smoothly. Forgiveness brings balance, healing, and peace—both emotionally and physically. This post delves deeper into forgiveness.
Practicing Forgiveness
Forgiveness is a frequency tool of the mind for healing. Making forgiveness the foundation of your healing practice unlocks true transformation.
When I let go of control, I trust more, have faith in the Holy Spirit that whatever I do is the right thing, and I don’t have to use effort to make anything happen.
Brain-Retraining
I teach forgiveness practice as part of the Sacred Self-Healing Method.
Practicing forgiveness is a top-down brain retraining strategy meant to free your mind of the constraints of dualistic thought and to begin seeing the world with the eyes of Oneness and help you find your way back to your true self.
Resistance
If you are experiencing resistance to practicing forgiveness, see if you can suspend judgment at least temporarily, and consider:
- Do you feel unforgivable?
- Has someone hurt you so badly that you feel you can’t forgive?
- Why does forgiveness feel difficult?
The Benefits of Forgiveness
Despite the potential for resistance to forgiveness, practicing forgiveness feels so good! Sacred Self-Healing is experiential, and it affects you on every level of your being. When you forgive, you experience a sense of expansion, peace, love, rightness, the ineffable, and being in the flow. It is a sense
of peace infinitely deep and broad, a feeling of being filled with delicious light, a sense that you are eternal, and you are love.
To review, here are some of the benefits of forgiveness practice:
- Feeling peace
- Having improved relationships with others and yourself
- Experiencing increased intuition, synchronicities, and moments of grace
Starting a Forgiveness Practice
The goal of brain retraining with forgiveness is to give over to Spirit whatever upsets you. Every day as a human in a body, you are provided with multitudes of opportunities to become irritated, hurt, or upset.
Try to catch yourself, as soon as you can, each time you notice you’ve become lost, and bring the issue, person, or situation to the light for forgiveness. It will take some time to become a habit, but practice makes it easier. Once you have brought the issue to the light, you ask to see it differently. I provide a forgiveness method for you to practice seeing differently whatever is upsetting you below.
Forgiveness Method
Here is one method to practice forgiveness and find your way back to your true self:
- Go Within – Clear your mind and allow your issue to become clear in your consciousness. Define the issue as concisely as you can. It does not need to be perfect; try to separate it from other related problems. If you notice that you have more than one issue, it can help to write the problems down on paper to clarify them and work on forgiving them one at a time.
- Connect with Oneness – Use your preferred method to join with your Inner Teacher, or whatever you like to call Spirit. I share ways to do this in my books and classes if you are unsure.
- Set your intention – State your willingness to see this issue differently, affirming your intention in the present tense.
- Give it to the Light – Give the issue to your Inner Teacher and imagine them taking it from you, or ask your Spirit Helper to bring the light of forgiveness to the issue. At the same time, you engage in an activity that symbolizes the transformation.
The bucket theory
The bucket theory simplifies understanding symptom reactions with MCAS. Imagine your body as an empty bucket you don’t want to overflow. Reactions to various stimuli fill the histamine bucket at different rates, forming the total histamine level (how full your bucket is). More histamine means more symptoms. By managing triggers, reducing exposures, and taking medications and supplements, you can control your bucket’s level.
Know your typical symptom progression
Understanding your symptom progression during a flare is key to developing your rescue plan. This post discusses how to recognize symptom progression so you can be prepared to address them.
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Sign up for the SSP!
I’ve found the Safe and Sound Protocol (SSP) to be the most helpful bottom-up healing strategy if your nervous system has been overloaded with toxic exposures, including mold or non-native EMFs, chronic infections, concussions, stress, or trauma. The SSP is a passive listening therapy based on Polyvagal Theory that helps heal nervous system dysregulation. Many people with MCAS and other chronic conditions have nervous system dysregulation stemming from infections, toxic exposures, concussions, and trauma. The SSP is an easy-to-use app that lets you listen to specially filtered music for 30 minutes each day as part of a 5-hour cycle. Studies show the SSP has a profound effect on mental health and chronic conditions. Here’s a short podcast describing the Safe and Sound Protocol.
You can sign up for the SSP here!
Heal your mind!
While the SSP is a bottom-up, somatic therapy for healing the nervous system, the Sacred Self-Healing Method I offer is a top-down nervous system-healing modality that focuses on cognition, attention, perception, and emotion, using the mind’s higher functions. The SSP and the Sacred Self-Healing Method complement each other and together produce lasting results. Here’s a short podcast on my self-healing practice.
I provide one-on-one in-person and remote chronic illness and caregiver coaching, as well as Sacred Self-Healing Sessions based on the Sacred Self-Healing Method, a proven, novel co-creative healing modality detailed in my Books.
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Here’s a short podcast highlighting my five books.
My latest book, Living In The Light: Healing with Forgiveness, Sound, and Light, is all about the tools that have been most helpful for me to heal: forgiveness, sound, through nervous system retraining using the Safe and Sound Protocol, and light, through entraining my circadian rhythm with the energy of the sun. Living In The Light is available here!
Rocks and Roots chronicles my solo backpacking journey on the Superior Hiking Trail and my efforts to overcome nervous system dysregulation, gut dysbiosis, and Mast Cell Activation Syndrome symptoms to complete the 328-mile hike successfully.
The Sacred Self-Healing Method ebook is available here and in most ebook retailers!
The Sacred Self-Healing Workbook is available for purchase here!
Betsy’s first book, Sacred Self-Healing: Finding Peace Through Forgiveness, is available here
Companion Recordings
The companion audio recordings of chants, guided meditations, and sound healing demonstrations that accompany the Sacred Self-Healing Method are available for free on my YouTube channel here
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Disclaimer
The preceding material does not constitute medical advice. This information is for information purposes only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, cure, or treatment.
