This post spotlights the nervous system regulating tool: Self-Touch.
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Who is Betsy Leighton?
I’m a writer, blogger, and healer dedicated to helping individuals reconnect with their innate peace and wholeness by healing nervous system dysregulation. My personal experience with chronic illness called Mast Cell Activation Syndrome (MCAS) shapes my work, and my content offers tools to empower those with chronic illness to improve their well-being and take charge of their health.
I created the Sacred Self-Healing Method and am a trained and certified Safe and Sound Protocol provider, an author, blogger, and A Course in Miracles Teacher. I hold a Master of Divinity in Spiritual Counseling and am a trained spiritual mentor, with certificates in sound healing, aromatherapy, nutrition, and Sacred Deathcare. I offer a self-study certificate program in the Sacred Self-Healing Method, provide spiritual counseling and coaching, courses, and supported subscriptions for the Safe and Sound Protocol.
What is MCAS?
Mast Cell Activation Syndrome (MCAS) is a chronic condition that affects all organ systems. It can cause severe, disabling symptoms every day, including potentially fatal anaphylaxis.
The common triggers for MCAS are infections, toxic exposures including mold exposure and EMFs, trauma, concussions, and stress.
MCAS often occurs with other chronic conditions like Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (EDS) and Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome (POTS). Managing MCAS is challenging because many healthcare providers are unaware of it, and diagnostic tests can be unreliable. Treatments include antihistamines and mast cell stabilizers in the form of medications and supplements, along with avoiding triggers. Check out this post on managing MCAS.
Bottom-up healing strategies
Bottom-up healing strategies for nervous system dysregulation refer to approaches that begin with the body’s most basic physiological and sensory experiences—such as breath, posture, touch, and grounding—and work inward to calm and restore balance in the autonomic nervous system. These strategies emphasize self-regulation through simple, accessible practices that engage the body’s innate capacity to heal itself. For example, techniques such as deep breathing, mindful body scanning, gentle movement, and sensory grounding (like focusing on the sensation of your feet on the floor) help activate the parasympathetic nervous system, which is responsible for rest, digestion, and recovery. By fostering present-moment awareness and physical connection, bottom-up methods support the nervous system in shifting from a state of chronic stress or hyperarousal to one of safety, stability, and resilience. These approaches are often used in conjunction with therapy, mindfulness practices, or trauma-informed care, and are especially effective for individuals experiencing anxiety, trauma, or emotional dysregulation.
What is nervous system dysregulation?
Nervous system dysregulation occurs when the autonomic nervous system becomes stuck in patterns of chronic stress, threat, or shutdown rather than fluidly shifting between states of activation and rest. The nervous system continuously scans for safety or danger and responds through distinct pathways that influence heart rate, digestion, immunity, and emotional regulation. When the system perceives an ongoing threat—whether physical or psychological—it may remain locked in a fight-or-flight or collapse state, even after danger has passed. Over time, this loss of flexibility can manifest as anxiety, fatigue, pain, digestive issues, sensory sensitivity, or difficulty feeling calm and connected.
Many factors can drive nervous system dysregulation, including concussions and other brain injuries that disrupt neural signaling, as well as psychological trauma that conditions the body to expect danger. Infections and chronic inflammation can sensitize neural pathways. At the same time, toxic exposures—such as mold, heavy metals, pesticides, or other environmental toxins—can directly irritate the nervous system and impair detoxification pathways. Non-native electromagnetic fields (EMFs) are also thought by some researchers and clinicians to act as a low-grade, constant stressor, especially in already sensitive systems, thereby further reducing the nervous system’s capacity to self-regulate and leading to limbic system dysfunction.
Healing nervous system dysregulation often requires more than cognitive strategies alone and instead focuses on restoring a felt sense of safety in the body. Bottom-up approaches that work directly with the nervous system—such as breathwork, gentle movement, sound-based therapies, and safe sensory input—can help reestablish regulation. One example is the Safe and Sound Protocol, a listening program designed to support vagal tone and social engagement pathways through filtered sound. By gradually signaling safety to the nervous system, these approaches can help rebuild resilience, improve physiological balance, and allow the body to move out of chronic survival mode and back toward regulation and healing.
Self-touch for nervous system dysregulation
Self-touch acts as a “bottom-up” regulatory tool, allowing individuals to directly soothe a dysregulated nervous system by signaling safety to the brain, bypassing the need for cognitive processing during moments of high anxiety or panic. When the body is in a state of fight-or-flight or hypoarousal, gentle, intentional contact—such as placing a hand over the heart, hugging oneself, or stroking the arms—activates specialized nerve fibers in the skin. These fibers send messages to the brain’s alarm system, the amygdala, to quiet down and decrease the production of cortisol. By facilitating the release of oxytocin and activating the parasympathetic nervous system (the “rest and digest” branch), this practice can lower heart rate, reduce blood pressure, and move the body out of a chronic state of threat.
Self-soothing touch techniques help reestablish a sense of safety and grounding by fostering a deeper connection with the physical self, essentially acting as a bridge to bring an individual back to their body during moments of dissociation or overstimulation. Somatic practices such as the “[butterfly hug]” (crossing arms and tapping shoulders) or gentle pressure on the abdomen can help ground nervous energy. These actions are particularly effective because they provide immediate, internal reassurance that reduces emotional overwhelm and helps restore a sense of being “in control” and present.
Furthermore, consistent use of self-touch can, over time, assist in rewiring the nervous system’s habitual responses to stress, shifting from automatic reactivity to a more resilient, calm state. By creating a “felt-sense” of safety, these actions help individuals build tolerance to difficult emotions without becoming overwhelmed. This self-compassionate approach offers an accessible, portable resource that can be used anywhere to counteract the effects of stress, anxiety, or social isolation.
Brief practice
Here is a brief practice for using self-touch to regulate the nervous system called the Upper Arm Squeeze, which mimics the sensation of a firm hug and provides immediate sensory feedback to help you feel “contained” when you’re feeling scattered or anxious.
The Practice: The Containment Hug
- Cross Your Arms: Take your right hand and place it under your left armpit. Take your left hand and wrap it around the outside of your right upper arm or shoulder.
- Apply Firm Pressure: Give yourself a firm, steady squeeze. You aren’t just touching the skin; you are applying enough pressure to feel your muscles and bones. This deep pressure sends a “safety” signal to your brainstem.
- Add a Slow Stroke: If a static hold doesn’t feel like enough, slowly slide your hands down from your shoulders toward your elbows. Repeat this downward motion several times. The brain interprets downward stroking as a calming, de-escalating cue.
- Tuning In: Notice the boundary of your body. Feel where your hands meet your arms. This helps end “floaty” feelings or dissociation by bringing your awareness back to your physical edges.
The bucket theory
The bucket theory simplifies understanding symptom reactions with MCAS. Imagine your body as an empty bucket you don’t want to overflow. Reactions to various stimuli fill the histamine bucket at different rates, forming the total histamine level (how full your bucket is). More histamine means more symptoms. By managing triggers, reducing exposures, and taking medications and supplements, you can control your bucket’s level.
Know your typical symptom progression
Understanding your symptom progression during a flare is key to developing your rescue plan. This post discusses how to recognize symptom progression so you can be prepared to address them.
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Sign up for the SSP!
I’ve found the Safe and Sound Protocol (SSP) to be the most helpful bottom-up healing strategy if your nervous system has been overloaded with toxic exposures, including mold or non-native EMFs, chronic infections, concussions, stress, or trauma. The SSP is a passive listening therapy that helps heal nervous system dysregulation. Many people with MCAS and other chronic conditions have nervous system dysregulation stemming from infections, toxic exposures, concussions, and trauma. The SSP is an easy-to-use app that lets you listen to specially filtered music for 30 minutes each day as part of a 5-hour cycle. Studies show the SSP has a profound effect on mental health and chronic conditions. Here’s a short podcast describing the Safe and Sound Protocol.
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Heal your mind!
While the SSP is a bottom-up, somatic therapy for healing the nervous system, the Sacred Self-Healing Method I offer is a top-down nervous system-healing modality that focuses on cognition, attention, perception, and emotion, using the mind’s higher functions. The SSP and the Sacred Self-Healing Method complement each other and together produce lasting results. Here’s a short podcast on my self-healing practice.
I provide one-on-one in-person and remote chronic illness and caregiver coaching, as well as Sacred Self-Healing Sessions based on the Sacred Self-Healing Method, a proven, novel co-creative healing modality detailed in my Books.
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Here’s a short podcast highlighting my five books.
My latest book, Living In The Light: Healing with Forgiveness, Sound, and Light, is all about the tools that have been most helpful for me to heal: forgiveness, sound, through nervous system retraining using the Safe and Sound Protocol, and light, through entraining my circadian rhythm with the energy of the sun. Living In The Light is available here!
Rocks and Roots chronicles my solo backpacking journey on the Superior Hiking Trail and my efforts to overcome nervous system dysregulation, gut dysbiosis, and Mast Cell Activation Syndrome symptoms to complete the 328-mile hike successfully.
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Betsy’s first book, Sacred Self-Healing: Finding Peace Through Forgiveness, is available here
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Disclaimer
The preceding material does not constitute medical advice. This information is for information purposes only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, cure, or treatment.
